A life long student of success psychology. Turned his passion into his work and writer of the book: The secret of Attraction.
Online dating is a fantastic way to pick up women. We now live in a day and age where insane amounts of women are just a click away from us. Dating women online gives you through certain datingsites the potential to meet hundreds of women.
This doesn’t mean that it will totally replace approaching and meeting women in real life, but it does bring some interesting possibilities. So why shouldn’t we use it? It’s about getting most out of life and meeting new women is a big part of that.
Why meeting women online is so unique
- Meeting women on the internet is less scary than meeting them in real life. It may give you more confidence to do it in real life aswell.
- Women give a lot of information on their profile. You can use this information to pick them up.
- You can chat with multiple women at the same time. In real life it can just be one at the same time.
- Women will approach you! If your profile is good this will actually happen.
Picking up women online and nonverbal communication
You can’t communicate with bodylanguage and intonation in the online world. It’s all about words and text and it can be misunderstood. That is why men invented emoticons, they can help create a playful vibe.
Emoticons still can’t guerentee that she will understand the playfullness in your text. You are not there when she reads it so she still might misinterpret the message. You never know in what mood she is or how much sense of humor she has.
If she does minsinterpret some the wrong way or doesn’t get the joke, many men will excuse themselves and stop teasing her all together. This is the last thing you should do. It was meant to be playfull, so don’t excuse yourself. You are who you are and you do what you do, don’t change that for her.
Example of online challenging her
If you playfully challenge her and she reacts bad, just challenge her a bit more. You can playfully accuse her that she doesn’t have a sense of humor. Take the following situation:
You say: Hehe you are kinda dorky :p
She says: ….
You: Not only that but also can’t take a joke :P
If she seriously takes offence, make sure you tell her you are just joking around and she should’t take it that serious. Only appologise if you went way too far. Lets’s just say, do it way less often than you are used to – especially if you are one of those ‘nice guys’.
How to handle online rejections
The women you meet online are people you don’t actually know yet. So if she doesn’t respond to your message, don’t take it personally. It doesn’t tell them anything about you as a person.
How a woman reacts to your message is strongly connected with how she feels. There are always elements out of your control. It might be that she is depressed about something so she responds badly. It has nothing to do with you!
She doesn’t even know who you are,,, so she can’t reject you for who you are. It doesn’t matter if a girl doesn’t respond or doesn’t respond nicely. It means that there is a better person out there for you, think in this kind of abundance all the time.
You can’t make yourself someone who is dependant on what someone else says or does. You act from your own intentions and you know there are plenty of women in the world that do find it fun to meet you.
The first message to send her online
Maybe the answer is frustrating but it doesn’t matter that much what you send her in the first message. Follow your intuition. The most important thing is that you start doing it NOW.
You really don’t know where to start? No panic, in the next post we will give you many openers that you can use to meet women online. Just start with it. It will help you a lot in cultivating the mindset of total abundance.
So this may sound strange, but begin with women who you don’t find very appealing. Check out how crazy you can make them about you. Don’t promise them stuff that is not true. You don’t have to make any actual plans. This datingcoach just wants you to make her crazy with your texts. Good luck!
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